tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119975427613586948.post7947054258970864856..comments2023-08-22T08:19:02.444-05:00Comments on ASquared: DrowningAmandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03030378027505873821noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119975427613586948.post-11550064487466255752013-01-07T18:43:06.949-06:002013-01-07T18:43:06.949-06:00I bet it is hard to figure out a routine. Most of ...I bet it is hard to figure out a routine. Most of my friends that are SAHMs say to sleep/rest when the baby sleeps, especially in the beginning and when they aren't sleeping through the night yet!! Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14723548534210723002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119975427613586948.post-73397619705993394542013-01-06T23:30:58.378-06:002013-01-06T23:30:58.378-06:00"How do these "perfect" bloggers do..."How do these "perfect" bloggers do it? How do friends and family do it?" They don't, they just crop the mess out of the pictures. I'm struggling with the same issues right now, plus a little "I'm pissed I'm the only one who ever cleans around here" thrown in. Honestly, I just do what I can when I can. The laundry is the easiest part for me though! I try to wait out doing Whit's laundry so he actually wears most of the outfits he owns (it makes me so mad when he never gets to wear something before growing out of it!) and then do a HUGE load at the end of the week. And whenever I'm putting up his stuff we go into his room with it all and as I fold/put away things, I play with him, talk with him about stuff, show him new outfits. When I'm putting up me and Ben's stuff, I sit Whit on the bed and mostly he just watches the ceiling fan and feels our sheets. I try to remind myself that everything is an opportunity for him to learn or experience something new... even if that's helping me take the trash out. <br /><br />Keep your head up! You're doing great! You've already figured out the hard part: keeping the baby happy and healthy. The other stuff will work out. Have you ever read...?<br /><br />Song For a Fith Child, by Ruth Hamilton. 1958<br /><br />Mother, oh Mother, come shake out your cloth<br />empty the dustpan, poison the moth,<br />hang out the washing and butter the bread,<br />sew on a button and make up a bed.<br />Where is the mother whose house is so shocking?<br />She’s up in the nursery, blissfully rocking.<br /><br />Oh, I’ve grown shiftless as Little Boy Blue<br />(lullaby, rockaby, lullaby loo).<br />Dishes are waiting and bills are past due<br />(pat-a-cake, darling, and peek, peekaboo).<br />The shopping’s not done and there’s nothing for stew<br />and out in the yard there’s a hullabaloo<br />but I’m playing Kanga and this is my Roo.<br />Look! Aren’t her eyes the most wonderful hue?<br />(lullaby, rockaby, lullaby loo).<br /><br />The cleaning and scrubbing will wait till tomorrow,<br />for children grow up, as I’ve learned to my sorrow.<br />So quiet down, cobwebs. Dust go to sleep.<br />I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.<br /><br />So when you ask yourself if you should play or clean, do what you want to do then. But remember as long as the house is still standing and everyone is alive, you've done your job right! <3 you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14518359779762402443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119975427613586948.post-20898584717435743222013-01-05T20:10:04.676-06:002013-01-05T20:10:04.676-06:00You will be fine. Your expectations are much highe...You will be fine. Your expectations are much higher than what others expect. I think sometimes we get in our heads "what good moms do" and strive to reach these crazy standards. However, I think it ultimately comes down to are you surviving with everyone happy? If so then you are perfect. <br /><br />I used to get so worried about whether Emma behaved a certain way, or the house looked a certain way and I realized that I am the only person knitpicking my life! I had to let it go, the boys will love you either way :) Lindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01331236875487266886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119975427613586948.post-74977106200879300912013-01-05T09:24:46.051-06:002013-01-05T09:24:46.051-06:00The best advice i can give you is to take things d...The best advice i can give you is to take things day by day. A schedule will come naturally and change often. Amelia had gone from 7pm bedtime to 10pm bedtimes just depending on the time of the year. She has changed feeding schedules depending on what stage she was in. Just be prepared for a lot of change, especially in this first year. As far as house work goes, try and do one or two things a day so that way your not overloaded but still keeping up with the basics. I do a load of laundry a day and pick one day a week ( let's face it sometimes every two) to organize and put away all the clothes while Amy took a nap. What worked for us was to organize by size until she was in 2t for a while then we organized by outfits. As far as our clothes go we just grow them on hangers and hang me up, but to be honest most of the time they end up in a basket and stay there. As far as wife goes, me and jake try and take one of amy's naps to snuggle and watch something together, or sometimes we load amy up in the car and let her sleep while we drive around and talk about everything. i wish i could say we do this every day but once he starts in school, we try and do it at least twice a week. The last thing i can suggest is to make time for yourself as well. Whether its joining a mommy and me group and having mommy nights out, or taking time for yourself and a friend to get your nails done, a happy mom makes a happy family. You are gonna have those days where all you do is watch and play with your son, and thats ok. this whole mom thing is just taking things day by day and trying your best to do your part as a mom and wife. <br />And<br />Amanda you are doing great as a stay at home mom. The important thing right now is spending time with that precious boy and you are!. You have a heathy child who radiates your love and who is always smiling. You are doing amazing!Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17819310233948009095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119975427613586948.post-32789928856615859412013-01-05T09:23:15.163-06:002013-01-05T09:23:15.163-06:00I don't know how SAHMs do it! I could hardly k...I don't know how SAHMs do it! I could hardly keep a house with just a husband and dog! Just do what you can, when you can! I'm a firm believer that relationships are more important than cleaning :)Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15611280675371676894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-119975427613586948.post-69888668523169904282013-01-05T08:08:12.667-06:002013-01-05T08:08:12.667-06:00The balance is hard but you will find it. I have ...The balance is hard but you will find it. I have a baseline of things that HAVE to be done. They include keeping up on laundry (I dont let it pile up at all), dishes clean (not piled up in sink), mostly clean kitchen, basics in the fridge. I vacuum/sweep a couple times (3?) a week. Nothing is ever "perfect" in my house but things arent ever gross either. Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11708857742804062091noreply@blogger.com